Battle of the Bridesmaids

September 24, 2012 at 12:56 pm 1 comment

One of the happiest days of your life may very well be one of the most hectic days, especially if you have difficult bridesmaids. The role of a bridesmaid is to be supportive and offer assistance with the wedding. The stress of wedding sometimes takes its toll on bridesmaids resulting in impromptu squabbles and disagreements. Stay calm, relieve the tension and show your appreciation for your bridesmaids such as treating them to a spa day with manicures or massages. Read on for a look at some of the disputes that might occur with battling bridesmaids.

Bickering Bridesmaids  

Cats and dogs might get along better than your warring bridesmaids. If the bridesmaids are arguing over dress styles and cannot reach a decision, you as the bride may have to pull rank and pick a style for them or offer flexible alternatives such as same color and fabric for all dresses but style can vary. Honesty is always the best policy, let your bridesmaids know how sad you feel that they are not getting along and ask them to please set their differences aside for the wedding. Try to be respectful and fair with all of your bridesmaids when maintaining the peace. Personality clashes and differences of opinion may occur with individuals of polar extremes. It may be a good idea to ask the maid of honor to step in and help mediate disputes so that you can concentrate on other important wedding matters.

Does Not Like Groom

What do you do when one of your bridesmaids is less than encouraging and says she does not like your choice of future husband? First, take a deep breath, count to ten then ask to meet with her so you can share feelings and move in a more positive and forward direction. Clear the air by communicating; the root of the problem is often based on a simple misunderstanding. Ultimately, who you marry is your choice and disliking the groom is not enough reason to demote a bridesmaid but unkind remarks about the groom should not be tolerated. The duties of a bridesmaid include offering emotional support, encouragement and helpfulness.


Your best friend has turned into Bridesmaidzilla, she is complaining about expenses, referring to her bridesmaid’s dress as the ugliest thing she ever saw, hates the groom and wants your wedding run her way. Before demoting your friend from the position of bridesmaid, seek out a person wiser and more experienced than you to consult with, sometimes someone who is outside the situation can lend a more balanced perspective and offer possible solutions. Take time for the two of you to sit together for a chance to calmly discuss her actions and  tell her how much her friendship means to you. Accept your bridesmaid’s sincerest apologies and any promises to change for the better; if the opposite occurs it may be time to take the next step and release her from duty of bridesmaid.

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